Friday, April 24, 2009










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Today - I'm putting up a prayer - in pictures. We Catholics pray to Our Lady - mother of Jesus. Repeating the Hail Mary ten times - makes a decade. And saying five decades - completes one turn of the rosary. You might have seen the rosary, a set of prayer beads with a cross at one end - hanging from the rear view mirrors of cars, from the cassocks of priests and nuns and around the necks of especially devout Christian women. Nowadays - we don't see men wearing the rosary too much, maybe they're shy. But my mother's father - an imposing hulk of a man who could wrestle anyone to the ground, would always have a rosary around his neck. At times of crisis, he'd say the rosary repeatedly, unashamedly - and Mother Mary always gave him success, whenever he called on her. These photos I have put here - were sent to me by my father a couple of weeks ago. It feels peaceful to look at them - hope you like them too.

Wednesday, April 22, 2009

What a home needs most



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This is a story that my wife told me today morning. I'm just penning it down for her. This is Deepti Jaimon's official first blog people! Do have a read - it's a simple tale. But I really like it.

There's a knock on the door. The lady of the house opens it. Three strangers are waiting at the gate. They tell her they've come from afar - after a very close friend of her's insisted they pay her a visit. But the lady is not a fool. She tells them her husband's not at home. And that she can't let anyone in - without his permission. That's fine - the strangers tell her . And they agree to wait at the tea stall just across the road.

The husband walks in about an hour later. The lady tells him everything - she obviously suspects the strangers are thugs. The husband tells her to call them in anyway. The lay's doubtful - but she does as she's told. But the strangers politely refuse. All three of us won't come in together - they say. Pick just one of us. They tell her their names - Money, Success and Love.

The lady is now confused. She goes back and asks her family for advice. Her mother in law tells her to ask for Money. We definitely need some, since you didn't get any from your father - she smirks. Her husband tells her to call Success in. If he could help me with this project I am doing - we'll be set for the rest of our lives, he tells her.

The lady's not too happy with their advice. When she goes back to the strangers - it's Love she invites to come home. But when she leads him back to her door - she finds Money and Success are already having tea with the family. She can't understand what's going on - till Love smiles and says - Lady, if you'd asked for either of my friends - the rest of us would have stayed outside your door. But you asked for me - and my friends don't let me go alone anywhere!

Monday, April 20, 2009

The Palm Bridge



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It was the month of June. The sky wore her black mantle, trees began to shake their branches in the fast blowing wind. Birds chirped and flew into their nests. Streaks of lightning emerged continuously, followed by the mighty roar of thunder. The dark clouds broke into heavy down pour filling the streams and rivers with water coloured red with the mud washed down from the hills in the east. Puddles formed everywhere, scores of naked children plunging into the cool waters and jumping into the puddles. ponds became full with fresh water. Paddy fields became a long stretch of flowing water, welcoming fish escaping from the rushing rivers in search of quieter breeding places. Boys rode their makeshift boats made of huge banana trunks, paddling them with bamboo poles in the vast ocean gifted by the benign monsoon.

Going to school in the wet season, loathsome to many kids, was a pleasure for the maidens of Aarukara. School was, in fact second home to us, as all children were treated kindly and without any distinction by our teachers. Ours was a school only for girls, managed by Catholic nuns. Facing our school was the boy's school, run by priests. Boys and girls, from different villages, had to reach their schools on foot, treading miles and miles of hilly terrain, cris-crossed with rivers in spate connected to land by wooden bridges. The bridges were mostly made of bamboo poles, tied together with coir ropes and suspended across trees with the help of strong steel wires. Most of such bridges were made by the collective labour and contribution of the parents of school going children. Smaller streams were bridged by single coconut or even Arecanut palms, culled from plantations that were more than half-a-century old.

The sight of well clad village kids, with well scrubbed faces, oiled and neatly combed hair, bundle of books under their arms, crossing these low slung bridges that twisted and swayed in cool gusts of Kerala’s monsoon wind, in their morning march towards school is a pleasing experience. There is a lot of chatter and laughter in the air, emerging specially from the young lasses with long black hair plaited in two and adorned with jasmine flowers.

On that fateful day of June 15th, the "thick five", as they were called, left for school separately in two's and three's. Mother had prepared a quick omlette and packed my lunch in an aluminum tiffin box. Holding my books and tiffin with the elbow, I opened my umbrella and moved to my cousin Nisha's house. Nisha was given to habitual depression, ever since her previous examination. Fearing failure, she, along with her friend had run away from home and boarded a train to Madras. Providence had brought them back home through the agency of a old gentleman who was traveling in the same train. Sensing the girls were in trouble, the gentleman took the girls to his home in Madras, gave them food and put them back the next day, on a train going to Trivandrum. He and his wife had warned the girls of the dangers lurking behind them in a strange place and convinced them to go home at the earliest. One can well imagine the emotional trauma and social stigma the then teen aged girls families had to go through in a close-knit village group. Though relieved at the return of his daughter safe and sound, Nisha's father, a strict disciplinarian, showered verbal abuse and physical torture on the little girl. Even more unbearable was the cat calls and the snide remarks by the schoolboys on our daily march to school. Nisha, the lively, bubbling, vivacious girl was never the same thereafter and withdrew into a cocoon, by shunning friends. I was the only companion whose company she did not detest.

We set out for school around 8 in the morning. After a short while, it began to rain cats and dogs. We reached a small stream with an Arecanut palm bridge. Strong currents of water were about to touch the palm bridge. We looked at the flushing, leaping, frothing, mud red water flowing under the bridge with trepidation. There was no question of going back home, for Nisha's father was sure to skin her alive for bunking class. Holding the books and the umbrella in our left arms, we climbed up the bridge, holding the steel wire tied to trees on both banks with our right hands. The palm began to wobble and sway. Praying to all the saints we were aware of, we somehow made it to the other bank and reached school half an hour late, fully drenched and shivering from head to toe. Sister Emma, our headmistress was kind enough to let us in and gave a pair of change of clothes to wear.

At the sign of inclement weather worsening, headmistress declared that school would be closed by lunch. She advised us to leave school at the earliest sign of the rain weakening. Even after a wait of half an hour, there was no sign of improvement. From the school itself, we could hear the roar of the flowing water and see uprooted trees and logs being carried away by the rushing waters. Our teachers asked us to wait for some more time to leave school so that the ferocity of the monsoons weakens a bit. There was no sign of any respite even after a wait of half an hour. One by one, the girls ventured to go back home. The "thick five" finally decided to make their move and started walking towards the stream. Nisha was last in tow. The sound of the water striking against our umbrellas and the roar of the stream was so deafening that we had to make ourselves heard. Though it was only past two, it had become as dark as night. The flashing streams of lightning and the loud thunder that followed gave such a tremor to our hearts. At every lightning, we ejaculated the names of Jesus, Mary, Joseph or Rama Rama or Allah O Akbar.

As we approached the stream with the palm bridge, the sight of the strong current sent a chill down each of our spines. There were a group of boys from the other school were already on the bridge. They did not seem in the least to be overawed by the situation. They were in fact, enjoying themselves, shouting at the top of their voices, singing cinema songs, parodying their teachers. We hesitantly looked at the swelling columns of water barely touching the palm bridge, unsure of whether to cross the stream or wait for some more time. Suddenly, Nisha came forward, neatly folded up her long skirt upto her knees, held up the books and umbrella in her right hand and climbed over the bridge, holding the supporting wires with her right hand. As soon as she reached the centre, the boys in front emitted a howl of shouts akin to the voices made by foxes and some of them began to sing a lewd film tune. Nisha felt giddy, lost her balance and plunged into the swirling water. As was inevitable, the current swept Nisha downstream. Even while being tossed about by the water, she held on to her books and umbrella tightly. As we the frightened girls were looking at poor Nisha not knowing what to do, one of the boys, who we considered to be one of the naughtiest, threw away his books and jumped into the water and tried to swim towards Nisha. But before he could catch up with her, the current swept him off to the other side. Nisha somehow was able to reach near the bank some distance downstream where she caught hold of a protruding root of a large Jackfruit tree. We shouted at Nisha to throw her books away and hold on to the roots with both her hands, but she continued to hold on to her books.

In the meantime a boatman downstream had saved the boy who had jumped into the stream to save Nisha. Soon the boatman, along with a large group of worried villagers came and fished out Nisha from the swirling waters. The books and the umbrella were still under Nisha's tight grip.

Nisha later told us that if she had lost her books, she would have had a severe thrashing from her father.

Lilly Joseph

Day 3 on the blogging trail

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This story was written by my mom. It's like Drama in Real Life. How life in a sleepy Kerala village could suddenly become a game between life and death. It's a true story.

Jaimon Joseph

Saturday, April 18, 2009

Kallua and Suresh



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On the very first day of Ashalayam’s existence, as the 14 children were brought from the station, by Brother Isaac Joshua and Brother Lalu Mondol and me, we asked them to wash their legs and sit down to play some indoor games, like Snake and Ladder or Ludo, which would require no skill or brain work. They were happy and all enjoyed them. Some took a round of the premises. When I noticed that the youngest, Kallua was falling asleep, I told them all to have a change and start singing with Brother Isaac. He put a plastic bucket upside down and started beating the tabla on it. He got the rhythm so well, that in a few minutes they were all singing “I am a Disco Dancer.” That was the hit of the day. Although many were singing with gusto, many were feeling drowsy. (My plan was to make them go to bed as late as possible, so they would sleep quickly and without interruption.) So I asked them to stop singing and I said, “Let us plan our future, shall we come here every day, what time, what shall we do, classes, training, or …” Before I could finish, Suresh, quite an open character and very exuberant, asked, “When is our prayer?” I was taken unawares. I did not expect that question from a street-boy. “Oh well, there will be two things missing here. Meals and prayer”, I said. Supplying them meals to attract them was a very low means I thought. “But won’t you pray …?”, Suresh continued. “Yes, in fact, you will hear us as you go to bed now. Please do not disturb us, try to sleep silently.” (Even as the boys go to bed, we the staff recite the rosary within sight and hearing of the boys.) Then suddenly, I was inspired to take this chance of their proposal. “Okay, well, instead of a prayer, let u do something else. All of you sit down nicely (Squatting), put your hands on your knees and close your eye. Close your eyes everybody.” Many closed, but then opened their eyes to see how many had not closed their eyes. Etc. But all were silent and serious. I closed my own eyes and said, slowly, distinctly, “Let us now imagine that we are in the presence of God, who knows and see our innermost thoughts and actions. Today, from morning till now, what have you done? Have you killed some one? Have you hit or wounded someone? Have you stolen anything from anyone? Have you told lies or been dishonest in anything? Have you disobeyed your parents, elders, supervisors? Have you taken the goods of others? Have you borrowed and not given back? I narrated all these questions and then gave them time to think seriously, still with their eyes closed. After one minute, which is quite a long period, I told them to open their eyes and I opened mine. Silently and seriously, I looked at each one of them. I could see that some had a shadow on their face, slightly sad, upset, thoughtful, still … in a word, sorry for what they had done and realized now.



So I continued. If you and your brothers here on earth are hitting and biting each other, don’t you think that our heavenly father will be sorry for this situation? He who created you and him? How long can we go on like this? Should we not make a change? When? Why not today itself? Let us promise to each other and to God that we will not fight and kill each other, we will not steal and lie, we shall not smoke and die, but learn a trade and lean an honorable and honest life … Okay? Isn’t this as good as a prayer? We shall do like this from time to time, instead of a prayer. Then I allowed all of them to sleep. I did not have sufficient blankets as I had not expected so many on the first day itself. Then I suggested that four or five of them could share one blanket. “Togetherness is happiness.” In fact, they expressed the hope that they would grow up like one family.

My second post


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OK. Reactions to the first post - none so far! No matter - Rome wasn't built in a day. I'll get the hang of this sooner or later. In the meanwhile - I'm trying to follow the first rule of bloggin - be regular! Next story update - from a very elderly priest I know - who's spent his whole life looking after Orphan children. Let me know what you guy's think.

Jaithemon

Friday, April 17, 2009

Cave of St Anthony

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Twenty years ago, passing out of the village middle school and joining a high school six kilometers away from home, was an important milestone in the life of Kerala's school children. I remember that farewell address given to us, seventh class acolytes by Thankamma teacher, our matronly Head Mistress. "Children, this is an important occasion in your lives. You are going to the high school and entering your teens. This is the beginning of fresh challenges of adulthood. Keep up the good name of the school and your parents."

Dreaming of that wonder world called High school, we, the group of five village belles walked back to our homes, planning for our summer vacations, the arrival of monsoon and the opening of school. Chitra Nair and Gita, her cousin Sukumari, Thressiakutty, my cousin and myself. We made a great team indeed, a boisterous group, singing, dancing, plucking mangoes from huge mango trees, throwing stones into the running streams, to and fro from school. On reaching home, I used to throw my bundle of books into one corner of the house and if mother was away working in the fields or feeding the cows, I rushed to Chitra's house, after throwing a tantrum for not being able to get anything to eat. There, Gita's mother would fill me up with hot dosas and coconut chutney. Thereafter she would sing and Chitra and I would perform folk dance. Then I would listen to mother's angry voice calling me to help her in boiling oil cakes and water for the cows.

Vacation time was one of hard work and toil in the sugar cane fields, or fetching tapioca from the fields. The nights would be warm and sweaty, an occasional cold wind or a salubrious bath with buckets of water drawn from our open well in the courtyard, giving a temporary respite. It was but natural that I looked forward to the coming of monsoon in June, which would bring out the umbrellas and signal the commencement of the school season.

Two months passed off quickly. The sky became dark, a strong wind started blowing. Palm and rubber trees started swaying. The heavens opened up and drenched the parched earth. We children rushed out into the rain taking in the sweet scent of the soil, drenched with the first showers of the monsoon. Chitra took me into her house and we dried ourselves. Chitra showed me the new dress her father had bought for her for the school. It was getting evening and I heard the church bells chiming and kirtans flowed out of the nearby temple. Chitra's mother called her for Ram Kirtan. I looked towards my house knowing fully well father's ire if children are late for prayers.

After prayers, I cosied upto father and broached the subject of opening of the school and my need to have new dresses. he agreed to get them ready by the coming week. I danced with joy.

Came 5th June, the day for enrolling new children at the High School. First we had to go to my old school for getting TC. I heard the headmistress praising me for my artistic talents and intelligence and the need for giving me more free time to pursue these activities. Father gave a deep sigh. We then proceeded to the High School where the Headmistress, appearing to be a tough taskmaster, duly enrolled me. I met my other friends there and since my father had to go the market to buy provisions, I returned home along with my friends.

High School was an exciting experience. New friends, new languages, to be learnt, new teachers. English looked a funny language, where you read is not exactly what you write. Hindi appeared more familiar but it was difficult to make verb and subject agree. Climbing hills, crossing streams on full flow on bridges of single palm, we used to practice the new language skills on the way back home from school in our own broken manner. On way to school, there was an ominous looking house. On every Friday, we could listen wailing and shouting coming out of the house. We later learnt that this was the place where devils were being driven out of people through Novena to St Anthony. It was believed that all mad or mentally deranged people were victims of the devil. Our parents admonished us never to go near the house. This only roused our curiosity.

One Friday, when we were returning from school, we heard loud cries and screams coming out of the house. We decided to investigate and tiptoed to peep through the small opening on the wall. It was a huge hall with bamboo wall and coconut thatching. The smell of incense emerging from the shed was strong. We slightly lifted the side door. Inside, we saw a large crowd. At the central table, there was the framed picture of St. Anthony adorned with flowers and surrounded by lighted candles. Among the crowd were several women, with sunken eyes, unkempt hair, torn clothes and devoid of any semblance of happiness. They were yelling, crying, beating their chests or pulling out their hair. some were in deep slumber.

A lean, hawk eyed, bald headed man, cane in hand, moved in the crowd. He started caning the women brutally. The cries of pain increased in crescendo. The odor of sweat and blood was oozing in the place. we started feeling dizzy with fright. Suddenly, a bare-chested man of 250 pounds rushed out of the house calling out 'I am out', 'I am free'. The earth appeared to shake under his weight. We too ran out in panic and hid under a bush. We saw the man being followed by a few other people, probably trying to catch him. Soon a crowd gathered on the road. A boy of six years then threw a peeled mango at the man urging to eat it. The man stopped abruptly, muttering, 'sweet little mango, I shall eat you'. Then his relatives came and caught hold of him.

The group of five ran back home, spell bound and frightened. We never told anyone about the traumatic experience.

Lilly Joseph

Lord Have Mercy

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My first attempt at actively blogging for myself. Let's see how this goes.

Jaithemon